5 Tips on How to Overcome Social Media Negativity

Social media negativity comes with putting yourself out there and unfortunately, comes with the nature of the internet. It's impossible to completely avoid trolls on the internet who sit behind their computers and anonymously spread their negativity to others.

I realized it is hard to make everyone happy, some people may have a different opinion or a negative view on a post or photo or simply don't like the outfit I'm wearing. I started my @thriftsandthreads Instagram almost 4 years ago in December and since that time have learned to not take these comments to heart or let it affect my creativity or my brand. I've been trying to teach Jadyn the same thing, as she recently got an Instagram account- but more importantly in dealing with other kids that may just say rude comments to her in general, whether it be at school or extra curricular activities. Although these tips are for social media, they really can be applied to other areas in your life where you may experience negativity from others.

There have been times where I have received really negative or even inappropriate comments whether it be on photos, Direct Messages on Instagram, Instagram Live, e-mails, blog comments, etc. In the beginning of my blogging career, it did hurt a bit because I felt like I needed to defend myself or give an explanation. But since then, I've learned to just ignore and move forward- I don't owe negative people any explanation.

Instead, I understand that something must be going on in their life where they don't feel great, because whatever the mouth speaks is a reflection of the heart. So knowing negativity is truly not a reflection of yourself, but rather more a problem with the person speaking, it's much easier to not take it personally. I've learned to always embrace the positive comments, accept constructive criticism from those I trust and ignore the blatant negativity.

Below are a few things I have learned while dealing with social media negativity throughout the years and hopefully it will help you too in your blogging journey:

It's not about you

I mentioned this above, but most of the time when people comment mean and hurtful things it is not because of you, but because of their own pain. You never know what someone else is going through, so I just learned to empathize, move on and be positive.

Block keywords

The great thing about the social media world evolving, is now on Instagram you are able to block certain keywords from showing up on your comments section. You can find this new comment filtering feature on the app's “Options” page, under “Comments”. I block curse words, sexual and derogatory keywords. My page is not a place for that type of content or words so I just simply don't allow it.

Decide if it's constructive criticism or if it's a troll

I have no problem with feedback saying if a reader was irritated about something not working correctly on my site or there was a broken link in a swipe up. I always listen to that feedback and respond if I'm able to make adjustments etc. But I think it's best to consider if the negative comment is offering useful feedback or if the main point is to bring you down. If the point is to bring you down, the user is simply not worth your time or energy and you shouldn't spend another second dwelling on that comment.

Always be positive

I try to always be a positive in life and also online. Life is too short to dwell on the past, so staying positive helps to keep me sane. For me, positivity comes from a heart of gratitude and thankfulness. There is so much to be thankful for- if you're reading this, you should be thankful you have eyes to see. Being thankful about super basic things in my life that are easy to take for granted keep me grounded and help keep an attitude of positivity. I also think it helps attract positive people to my blog and social media as well.

Don't respond and block when necessary

There have been times where I wanted to respond to a hurtful comment. When people comment negative things about Anthony or Jadyn I can get upset and want to comment back, but I consider the source and move on. I feel like responding would just add more fuel to the fire and isn't worth my time.

I have also blocked users before that have said rude comments about my daughter Jadyn, I simply don't want users following me who think it's ok to say derogatory remarks about my 10 year old. And I 100% believe there are legitimate times where blocking a user makes sense- they simply don't deserve to follow you if they are going to spend time writing comments like that.

I hope this helps you guys moving forward- these tips have been great for me and have worked well in helping me overcome social media negativity.

What do you guys think about this and have you experience such negativity? Would love to know how you handled it. Comment below!

xx Brittany

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42 Comments

  1. Ellie August 10, 2017 at 3:15 am

    There is so muhc negativity on social media at the moment I am so happy to see a post about avoiding it! And there is nothing wrong with unfollowingn or blocking when you need to

    http://www.petiteelliee.com

    Ellie xx

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  2. Valentina August 10, 2017 at 3:22 am

    This is such a great and very useful post. Luckaly I haven’t had many experiences with negative comment but I totally agree with this entire post, especially the last point. It’s never a good idea to respond because that’s exactly what they want. I feel like social media brings out the worst in people and makes them anonymous which gives them the freedom to write whatever they want without any consequences. In real life they could’t say hello let alone insult the people they attact online. And like you said it’s not about you it’s about them. They leave hate comments in hopes that will make them feel better or make somebody feed worse than how they feel.

    Wow, I did not mean to write an essay here haha I just have a lot to say on this topic and wwhen I start writing I can’t stop!
    Valentina from https://psminimalist.blogspot.com

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  3. Amy August 10, 2017 at 3:23 am

    It’s a shame we live in a world where not eveyrone seems to understand that if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it at all, but a great article as a reminder to not worry about it and great tips for dealing with it xx.

    Amy // http://www.thenoiseinwonderland.com

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  4. Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog August 10, 2017 at 4:14 am

    Ugh, I hate internet trolls so much! I have someone who repetitively comes back to my site to leave mean, comments, and lemme tell you, after blocking their IP address, I never felt better! I’m all for constructive criticism but blatant hating is stupid!

    Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog
    http://charmainenyw.com

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  5. Kendall August 10, 2017 at 4:54 am

    I think this is SO important. You are absolutely right – what people say about you says far more about them. And I think it’s totally appropriate to block those who are genuinely mean, especially when it comes to your family.

    Love this post!

    Kendall
    http://www.weekendall.com

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  6. Lauren August 10, 2017 at 5:38 am

    Really good tips. I can imagine it must be quite upsetting to see nasty comments but you seem to handle them well x

    http://www.wonkylauren.com

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  7. Amy Price August 10, 2017 at 5:48 am

    These are great tips! I have also learned that we have no control over other people and their thoughts, and/ or comments. I agree that blocking them is the best way to handle that, no need to start up arguments within your site comments. Thanks for this great post!

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  8. Akshaya August 10, 2017 at 10:05 am

    I love the thought on how it’s important to realize that the person saying negative comments might be going through something of their own! I think that applies to real life situations as well. This is a great post!

    Akshaya
    http://www.theiyerorder.com

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  9. Kirstie August 10, 2017 at 11:33 am

    Awesome insights. I’ll have to look into blocking keywords on IG since sometimes comments are just out of line and I usually report them.

    http://www.kfclovesyou.com

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  10. Magda August 10, 2017 at 11:38 am

    Great tips, there are a lot of internet trolls out there and it takes time to learn to ignore it and not to take things personally. Thanks for sharing!

    http://www.gloryofthesnow.com

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  11. Rosie von Waldherr August 10, 2017 at 11:39 am

    It really is hard to block out the negative voices of social media and those that we then create ourselves in our heads as well…Social Media has such a big potential to be something so positive, we really should all use it as such!

    xo,Rosie // Curvy Life Stories

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  12. shannon August 10, 2017 at 11:44 am

    You worded everything so eloquently and handled this topic with grace. I am very vocal about a topic that can be controversial (cannabis) so it’s something that can come with the territory. I also LOVE that you are really teaching this to Jadyn too – it’s something, especially growing up with the internet, that I think people can forget about the human being behind the screen. Thanks for sharing, Brittany! Like you said, there is so much in this life to be thankful for. xx Shannon || http://www.champagneatshannons.com

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  13. Ana August 10, 2017 at 11:48 am

    This is so honest and helpful! I remember I DM’d you one time asking advice on negative people and you are so right, I never thought of it that way, there’s definitely something going on in their lives if they go around and spread negative hurtful comments when they don’t even know you. If it bothers them they should just move on with their lives and go watch/follow the people they do enjoy. Also, about responding to comments… if you do respond to a negative comment like are you expecting them to go “oh yeah i’m sorry my bad” like.. NO! of course theyre gonna keep posting rude comments (that’s what they came to do) so definitely never responding no matter how much you wanna prove your point.

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  14. Pili August 10, 2017 at 11:51 am

    I’m so sorry to hear you receive negative comments! This people are just bored with their life and have nothing better to do. I feel like blocking them is so much easier than getting in a fight!
    Remember: haters gonna hate ;)
    Love
    Pili
    To Read with Tea

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  15. Skyler Mapes August 10, 2017 at 11:57 am

    Brittany I love this! Rings so so true!

    You have to be the best you possible and sometimes that’s not “enough” for other people. Also the part about filtering out bad comments is genius! I never thought of that! Thanks

    Xx

    -Skyler

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  16. Amber Nall August 10, 2017 at 12:00 pm

    Thanks for this! Great tips! And for what it’s worth, your daughter is adorable and I love watching her on your stories. She is so full of life and has an amazing future ahead of her!

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  17. Maya August 10, 2017 at 12:30 pm

    I LOVE THIS!! And love that you keep your daughter aware but try to teach her how to deal with it! Definitely using these as my daughter gets order!! P.s you are one of my favorite bloggers and I look up to you so much since you blog + mom so well!!
    Xx, Maya❣️

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  18. Mariah Franzmann August 10, 2017 at 12:49 pm

    Well said! I didn’t know about the blocking keywords feature. Thanks for writing this. Sending positivity your way!

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  19. Nadine Patterson August 10, 2017 at 12:54 pm

    This is so encouraging and something I’ve been learning myself. Thank you for taking the time to write this. I enjoy watching your instastories I love how they are fun, and reflect real life. There is certain genuineness in you and your sweet little family that brings great joy. You guys definitely make the world a little bit brighter. Thanks again for the tips on dealing with negativity and encouraging words.

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  20. Maria August 10, 2017 at 12:55 pm

    Great reminder! I receive negative comments on my blog and YouTube channel at times, and if I choose to respond, it’s always positive like “thanks for reading my blog” or “thanks for watching my video”…. regardless, I’m grateful they took the time. The jokes really on them, if they only know. xo, Maria
    http://savvynista.com

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  21. Jorja August 10, 2017 at 1:14 pm

    Such a great post ♥️
    I find it so crazy that anyone could say something negative about your family too! Keep shinning
    Jorja

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  22. Mia August 10, 2017 at 2:53 pm

    Absolutely loved this post! It’s sad that social media can become so brutal sometimes. These tips were very helpful and I admire how you handle these situations!

    Mia | http://www.verymuchmia.com

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  23. Kritsida August 10, 2017 at 3:27 pm

    I’m so glad you shared this! Social media and blogging has been intimidating because of all the negative comments. I think as long as we continue to empower each other then the negative comments wouldn’t even matter!
    x. kritsida
    http://aperfectcanvas.net/

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  24. Melissa (Rings and Rosé) August 10, 2017 at 5:00 pm

    I loved reading this! I’m a new blogger and feel like I already have an advantage after hearing this advice! I loved the peice about always trying to remain positive too!!

    Thank you!

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  25. Katie August 10, 2017 at 7:03 pm

    You are such a positive inspirational person! Thanks for this advice. It’s good to hear from a pro how to handle that stuff.

    Katie
    http://www.lavieencolor.com

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  26. Laura August 10, 2017 at 7:36 pm

    I love this! I’m not a blogger, but I’m very much a big advocate for anti-bullying and love your tips! They work for everyday lives outside of blogs and I love that! Thank you

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  27. Elizabeth August 10, 2017 at 10:15 pm

    Really loved these tips, Brittany! It’s true – it’s so easy for other people to say hurtful or mean things behind their screens, and it’s just not right. I was bullied a lot during elementary and middle school, and though there wasn’t social media or anything like that then, I still understand how it can be hurtful, whether these comments are made through the internet or face to face. So glad that you shared these great tips and are teaching Jadyn the same things :)

    XO, Elizabeth
    http://clothestoyouuu.com/

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  28. Kristjaana August 11, 2017 at 4:11 am

    I relate to this subject so much, Brittany!
    I’m from a small Northern European country called Estonia with only a little over 1m people living there, so being a blogger, you’re every move is constantly in the “public eye”… I haven’t experienced any negativity on my Instagram since I have more international follower base there compared to my blog (or I’m just lucky with sincere and genuinely nice followers :)), but every now and then I discover horrible rumors / back talking / criticizing about me on different forums among other Estonian girls and women.
    It used to hurt me a lot when people would make up lies about me, talk badly about me and my family, especially my child, but I’ve learned to just not pay attention to those comments anymore. Some people are just mean, bored or who knows what and there’s nothing we can do about it other than just focus on our own lives and happiness, without letting negative people bring you down :)

    Thanks for the great post and I love that you’re teaching Jadyn not to let negative people get to her. I think it all starts with the way people are raised by their parents from ground up and the more we teach our children to be kind to people and accept everyone the way they are, the less negative trolls we’ll have. Hopefully :)

    xx Kristjaana
    http://www.kristjaana.com

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  29. Cynsationalcyndi August 11, 2017 at 9:08 am

    Great advice

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  30. Shelbi August 11, 2017 at 2:19 pm

    I have not experienced this yet, and am not looking forward to the day when it actually does happen. I also have a 3-year-old boy and don’t post pics of him in social media, for fear that someone may something mean about him, because he is my heart and my soul. Thanks for the advice…you have such thick skin.

    Shelbi | Urban Girl’s Closet

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  31. Kaithlin Corcoran August 13, 2017 at 1:41 pm

    Blocking Keywords is such a good idea, I will definitely be doing it. Thanks, Kx

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  32. Natalie Redman August 15, 2017 at 8:30 am

    Great post!

    ‘I don’t owe negative people any explanation.’ – very true.

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